What Porn Doesn’t Tell You

Have you ever seen pictures/memes like this? Uso ‘yan ngayon sa social media sites.

Expectation Vs. Reality 2 Expectation Vs. Reality 1

Yeah, well, basically, ganyan ang pornography. Ang expectation ng men sa porn (sa magazine man o sa internet) ay magkakaroon sila ng satisfaction, intimacy, acceptance, and the feeling of being loved. Pero in reality, porn gives brokenness, distortion, ungodliness, dirt, loneliness, more loneliness and death. So we’re going to bust pornography’s lies and deception towards men and let’s take a look on what the Bible says with this thing. Here is what porn doesn’t tell you:

  1. It destroys your soul.

Sabi ni Jesus, tignan lang daw natin “lustfully” ang isang babae, were already commiting adultery in our hearts (Matthew 5:28) It’s not the behavior kasi, it’s the condition of our hearts. Bakit? Kasi our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19). So whenever we look lustfully at women and commit adultery, we’re destroying ourselves (Prov. 6:32) and we commit sin against our own body (1 Cor. 6:18). As C.S. Lewis said, that we don’t have a soul. We ARE a soul, and we have a physical body. So whatever we do with our physical body, we also do with our soul.

  1. Women aren’t happy with it.

Yep. You read that right, sa mga magazine at sa internet, women aren’t really happy with what they’re doing. It’s totally a lie that they “want it”. NO. Umiiyak ang puso nila sa totoo lang. Nasisira ang pagkatao, pagkababae at dignidad nila. Women are not objects. Women are not trophies. They are God’s treasured possession (Deut. 7:6) and God meant them to be pure and to have the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:2,4)

  1. It perverts and distorts the true meaning of sex.

Kung hindi mo pa alam, masturbation is a sin of sexual immorality. Hindi ‘yan “call of nature” or “natural process of the body” (kung kani-kanino ka kasi nakikinig). At kung hindi mo pa alam, sex is actually God’s gift. Actually, God authored sex, and its fullness and real pleasure can only be found in the context of marriage. Hindi sa cheap videos or pages of a magazine. Piniratang version ‘yun. It is a command to keep the marriage bed pure (Heb. 13:4).

As I was typing this post, I wish I could tell you how I had obeyed God and kept myself pure as a man, and walked in His light, but I wasn’t. I was a fraud. I disobeyed Him and destroyed myself. It is only by His grace that I can now testify to His faithfulness in restoration. By His blood, my purity has been restored. Yep. For those who messed-up with their lives, believe me, there is hope in Jesus. What the enemy had taken away, God can restore, even three times more. Kaya here is the last thing that porn doesn’t tell you.

  1. It crucified Jesus on the Cross.

The holy and righteous God sent His son to die on the Cross to absorb the wrath caused by our sexual immorality. He was pierced for our transgressions (Isaiah 53:5), The punishment that brought us peace was upon Him (Isaiah 53:5), Through His blood, we have been reconciled with God (Col. 1:20), Through His blood shed on the cross, we can find forgiveness (Heb 9:22), through His blood, our conscience are cleansed (Heb. 9:14), and by His grace, we can now turn away from this sin and turn to God who promised to never leave us nor forsake us (Heb. 13:5) and to make all things new (Rev. 21:5) and by His wounds, we are healed (Isaiah 53:5).

It is my hope and prayer that after reading this, the Holy Spirit will cause you to stand up in purity and be radical to counter this world’s perspectives regarding sex and purity. Remember, God loves you.

For further wisdom regarding purity, you may check these other books as well:

1. Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot

2. Sex Is Not The Problem, Lust Is by Joshua Harris

3. Every Young Man’s Battle by Steve Arteburn

4. Clean: A Proven Plan for Men Committed to Sexual Integrity by Douglas Weiss

5. Real Men are POGI by Ardy Roberto


Syota Problems

Emotional Purity.

Did those words ever crossed your mind?

Naalala ko dati, tinanong ko ‘yung isa kong kaibigan na Christian kung nagkaroon na ba siya ng syota. Nagulat ako sa reaksyon niya, para niya kong sasapakin, “Ang pangit pakinggan!” sabi niya.


‘Yun pala, ang ibig sabihin ng syota, ay “short-time”. Short-time partner.

Hmm, nagkaroon ka na din ba ng syota? Este short-time partner?

Ako, oo. At masakit sa ulo.

Hindi ko alam sa iba, pero may sablay kasi sa konsepto ng short-time relationships eh:

  • Tinatanggal nito ang vision ng isang tao for marriage (at kung hindi mo pa alam, sobrang importante niyan),
  • Nadi-distort din nito ang totoong definition ng love at higit sa lahat;
  • Nawawalan ang isang tao ng emotional purity dahil dito.


Think of this: if we don’t have any vision for a lifetime relationship, one that is God-centered, then we’re just defrauding the person.

Sabi sa Bible, we have to be good stewards of God’s gifts. All the relationships that we have are God-given, so the question is, are we taking good care of those relationships? Or are we just deceiving them just to fulfill our emotional satisfaction? By the way, God can only fulfill our satisfactions.

Naniniwala ako na gustong-gusto ni God na maging pure tayo hindi lang physically, pero pati emotionally. Sabi din sa Bible, may tamang oras para sa lahat ng bagay. Kaya relax lang kapatid, hindi ka pababayaan ni Lord. Don’t settle for less for what God had planned for your best. =)

If you’ve messed-up in the past like me, I have another story to tell you. sa next blog ko na lang ipopost. 🙂

Ayee! Ang Mushy Mushy Nyo Naman!

Girl: Bebe Qoh! Sooooo MISS YOU nuAh TLaqAh.. ^__^ iLang HourZZ na tAyo hindi Na6kikita.

Boy: miss you too baby. nakauwi ka na ba?

G: YESSS! BEBE QoH, Salamat sa pAGhatid Ha, SUPER naappreciate Qoh! :)))))

B: oo naman baby. baby kita e. tsaka anlakas ng ulan at gabing gabi na kaya.

G: ou n6a BEBE qoh. hayyys. graveh kc Prof. namin X( </3

B: ok lang yan baby ko. habang nagmamahalan tayo, walang makakapigil satin.

G: *sniff* nacomfort nAmaN AquOH dun BEBE qOh. pahug! >.<

B: eto ohh.. bukas kain tayo DQ baby.

G: hansweet sweet ng BEBE Qoh! OCAKES! ;)) see youuuuu! :*

Hindi yan typo. Kapag pinabasa mo yan sa mga tito/tita or lola natin, tiyak na mapapakamot sila ng ulo, pero kung sa mga kaibigan mong high school yan ipapabasa. well, for sure, relate to the nth level.

bebe ko, angel ko, munch ko, pillows ko, meron akong kaklase nung high school na halos lahat na yata ng kakilala nya eh may katawagan sya, pakiramdam ko inubos nya na lahat ng pangalan ng pagkain sa cafeteria na pwede maitawag.

Basically, this post is all about compromise/the danger of lowering our standard. but wait, don’t misunderstand me, I am not against any of this, It is okay to admire someone, within God’s conviction. but if this bumibilis-tibok-ng-puso-ko-pag-andyan-na-sya thing makes you lower your standards, makes you stumble, or worse, makes your passion, feelings, and effort drift away from God, maybe we need to check our hearts again.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”

-proverbs 4:23

I know we have read this like, a million times already. but the thing is, oftentimes, We leave out the first three words of the verse: ABOVE ALL ELSE. Dude, above all else, it’s above every area that you know you should be guarding on, and I am not excluding myself, I’m preaching this to myself too. Bakit? kasi alam ni God na kung nasaan yung puso natin, doon din natin ibinibigay yung buhay natin.

What the verse ought to say, in our generation is this:

“Raise your standards! you are worth waiting for! (for women), You are a prince, a protector and a warrior!(for men)”

Yes, I sincerely believe that this verse does not calmly speak or whisper, rather, it shouts.

Oo, naintindihan kita, nandiyan yung, “eh ang cute cute kasi nya!” o kaya yung  “magaling kasi sya kumanta, maggitara, at mag cup song.” o kaya yung “grabe naman! pinaprint ko lang naman yung picture nya para ilagay sa wallet ko for inspiration e, OA ha.” hindi ako ang makakasagot kung OA ba o hindi, it’s between your heart and God’s heart. Gusto ba natin ipagpalit yung ibibigay ni God sa hinaharap sa mga simpleng mushy words ng tao na to?

James 1:13-15 tells us that “When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death”

This is not a warning. This is a wake-up call from a loving Father. He wants us to know the wisdom behind every deception of compromise: that when you start lowering your standards, yun na din ang oras = na pinagpapalit mo na yung toblerone (love, will ni God) sa choc-nut (compromise that will lead to sin). YES. KAHIT HIGH SCHOOL KA PA LANG. It is good to be pure while we are still young. at kung hindi na, we can go back to the One who can purify us: Jesus Christ.

We can stand victorious against compromise! why? because Jesus died on the Cross 2,000 years ago for that! and by that, We have to always remind ourselves than on the Cross, we have been bought with a price. Titus 2:11-14 declares that “For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good.

Gusto ko na din ikuwento yung testimony ng kaibigan ko. Sa gitna ng usapan nilang magkakaibigan na ang topic ay ‘first kiss’. lahat ng mga kaibigan nya ay nawiwirduhan sa kanya kung bakit wala pa syang first kiss sa edad nyang yon. “19 years old wala kapang first kiss? duh.” tanong ng isa, sabay sagot sya ng: “I can always be like you anytime I want but you can never be like me.” Totoo yun, purity itself ang mismong gift ng purity kahit bata pa tayo. gets mo?

remember: we have been bought with a price. and all these passion, feelings and effort are meant for the glory of the One who loved us first, even when we’re still sinners. kasi sa simula’t sapul, yung pag-ibig naman talaga ni  Jesus sa Cross ang tunay eh. He died so that we may know the definition of real love-sacrifice. Saan tayo makakakita ng ganung pagmamahal?


1. Base sa ating natalakay, anong sinabi ng Scipture tungkol sa compromise?

2. Sa kultura ngayon na puno ng mushy-mushy words and relationships, How are you going to stand firm in your faith, at paano mo maipapakita sa mga kaibigan mo na ang tunay na pag-ibig ay nanggagaling sa Cross?

3. Irelate ang topic sa bridge illustration ng romans 6:23. kulayan ang drawing gamit ang crayola ng kapatid mong elementary.

4. Marami pang verses about purity. Hanapin at isabuhay.