What Porn Doesn’t Tell You

Have you ever seen pictures/memes like this? Uso ‘yan ngayon sa social media sites.

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Yeah, well, basically, ganyan ang pornography. Ang expectation ng men sa porn (sa magazine man o sa internet) ay magkakaroon sila ng satisfaction, intimacy, acceptance, and the feeling of being loved. Pero in reality, porn gives brokenness, distortion, ungodliness, dirt, loneliness, more loneliness and death. So we’re going to bust pornography’s lies and deception towards men and let’s take a look on what the Bible says with this thing. Here is what porn doesn’t tell you:

  1. It destroys your soul.

Sabi ni Jesus, tignan lang daw natin “lustfully” ang isang babae, were already commiting adultery in our hearts (Matthew 5:28) It’s not the behavior kasi, it’s the condition of our hearts. Bakit? Kasi our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19). So whenever we look lustfully at women and commit adultery, we’re destroying ourselves (Prov. 6:32) and we commit sin against our own body (1 Cor. 6:18). As C.S. Lewis said, that we don’t have a soul. We ARE a soul, and we have a physical body. So whatever we do with our physical body, we also do with our soul.

  1. Women aren’t happy with it.

Yep. You read that right, sa mga magazine at sa internet, women aren’t really happy with what they’re doing. It’s totally a lie that they “want it”. NO. Umiiyak ang puso nila sa totoo lang. Nasisira ang pagkatao, pagkababae at dignidad nila. Women are not objects. Women are not trophies. They are God’s treasured possession (Deut. 7:6) and God meant them to be pure and to have the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:2,4)

  1. It perverts and distorts the true meaning of sex.

Kung hindi mo pa alam, masturbation is a sin of sexual immorality. Hindi ‘yan “call of nature” or “natural process of the body” (kung kani-kanino ka kasi nakikinig). At kung hindi mo pa alam, sex is actually God’s gift. Actually, God authored sex, and its fullness and real pleasure can only be found in the context of marriage. Hindi sa cheap videos or pages of a magazine. Piniratang version ‘yun. It is a command to keep the marriage bed pure (Heb. 13:4).

As I was typing this post, I wish I could tell you how I had obeyed God and kept myself pure as a man, and walked in His light, but I wasn’t. I was a fraud. I disobeyed Him and destroyed myself. It is only by His grace that I can now testify to His faithfulness in restoration. By His blood, my purity has been restored. Yep. For those who messed-up with their lives, believe me, there is hope in Jesus. What the enemy had taken away, God can restore, even three times more. Kaya here is the last thing that porn doesn’t tell you.

  1. It crucified Jesus on the Cross.

The holy and righteous God sent His son to die on the Cross to absorb the wrath caused by our sexual immorality. He was pierced for our transgressions (Isaiah 53:5), The punishment that brought us peace was upon Him (Isaiah 53:5), Through His blood, we have been reconciled with God (Col. 1:20), Through His blood shed on the cross, we can find forgiveness (Heb 9:22), through His blood, our conscience are cleansed (Heb. 9:14), and by His grace, we can now turn away from this sin and turn to God who promised to never leave us nor forsake us (Heb. 13:5) and to make all things new (Rev. 21:5) and by His wounds, we are healed (Isaiah 53:5).

It is my hope and prayer that after reading this, the Holy Spirit will cause you to stand up in purity and be radical to counter this world’s perspectives regarding sex and purity. Remember, God loves you.

For further wisdom regarding purity, you may check these other books as well:

1. Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot

2. Sex Is Not The Problem, Lust Is by Joshua Harris

3. Every Young Man’s Battle by Steve Arteburn

4. Clean: A Proven Plan for Men Committed to Sexual Integrity by Douglas Weiss

5. Real Men are POGI by Ardy Roberto